Men's Healthy Anger
Own this. As a man, you have the right (and the need) to get all riled up if
football team misses a field goal attempt. You have the right to kick the
wall if you can't get the garage door opener to work. You have the right to
into a nasty exchange with the plumber if the job isn't right. You have the
to swear after you get a traffic ticket. And you have the right to use an
unpleasant tone of voice with a woman when necessary.
Women can't have it both ways. A woman can't expect to neuter a man's
response, then demand his virility at her whim. Where would women be without a
man's willingness to slay the necessary dragons? Healthy anger is an
and indispensable masculine quality and in certain contexts it must be kept
alive. The feminized male is a man-in-limbo.
So stop apologizing, stop feeling guilty, and stop neutering your magnificent
masculinity. Take responsibility for expressing your real emotions in real
Don't infantilize a woman. Every woman needs a man to hold her accountable.
if she doesn't want to be told the truth about herself she's not a woman
excerpt from Keep Your Relationship, Keep Your Self, Pamela Hogan